I’ve nothing against virtual games but here’s something that needs to be said!

I’ve never been able to convey my thoughts properly in words. Which is why regardless of the letter topic, this has nothing to do with video games at all! Confused? Let me explain.

So, you must be wondering what’s her problem now? I mean, if a guy opens doors for you, introduces you to his family and shows you off in front of his friends, then he’s 100% marriage material! Just slide in the wedding ring already!

No.

That’s not how it works, ladies and gentlemen.

Although, I’ll have to agree that some of these stereotyped ‘husband material’ gestures are genuinely cute and are normal ways to show love, I’ve a problem with the labels associated with them.

“He cancels boy’s nights out and pauses video games for you? He’s the one!”

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These days nobody is bothered with the ‘whys’ and the ‘whats’, all they care about is Mathematics! Some random gesture equals an illogical opinion. Yes, I’m not even kidding. For example,

“He asked you to split the bill on your date? What a pig!”

“He cancels boy’s nights out and pauses video games for you? He’s the one!”

Let’s have a reality check.

Just because you ask me to split the bill doesn’t mean that you aren’t chivalrous. It shows that you’re as much of a feminist as I am!

And just because you pause your video game for me, doesn’t mean I will marry you!

There’s two sides of each story they say, but in my opinion, every story is multi-dimensional without a guideline manual. So, the best way around it is either using instincts or plain logic. Stereotyping and judging people based on what others have done in the past is just unreasonable.

Dear men, stop trying to predict women and what goes on in their minds. Our expectations change by gazillion per second!

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What I’ve noticed, is that this usually happens in relationships. And since I happen to be an expert on them *giggles, coughs and dies*, let me tell you the two golden rules to avoid your own ‘video game pausing’ moment.

1. Dear men, stop trying to predict women and what goes on in their minds. Our expectations change at the speed of a gazillion per second!

In other words, you can continue playing your video games and will have to think harder to qualify as ‘husband material’.

2. Dear women, it’s about time you didn’t try a million different things to find out what men like the most. Truth be told, they themselves have no idea.

Am I right or am I right?

Anyway, on the other side of this multi-dimensional story, I don’t want my advice to backfire as well! Meaning: Use your brain, people!

If someone genuinely makes an effort to show that they care, don’t discard them as fake gestures or tricks. Because, on the other hand, if a guy did pause his video game for you, it says something, right? I can’t be sure though! He could’ve paused it to see which toppings you put on his pizza. You never know.

Love,
Someone who gives amazing advice (occasionally).



Author: Alisha Jamshed Syed

 

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