I would love it if you wouldn’t shower me with stories of how you ‘struggled’!

Now don’t get me wrong, I know that you care. I know that what you’re saying is in the best of my interest. I understand that you’re telling me what you think is best for me. I acknowledge your concern but I think I’m fine without it!

Even in normal circumstances, things aren’t easy in your teenage years. What with all the raging hormones, the need for validation and the desire to make a difference! But add in a little bit of ‘Back in my day, I was married and had a house of my own when I was your age’ and the recipe calls for a disaster.

You aren’t allowed to stay out for long without a hundred calls from home.

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Teenage, especially the age I am at, is one of the most confusing phases anyway. On one hand, you are expected to make big life and career decisions and told to act ‘like an adult’. But on the other hand, you aren’t allowed to stay out for long without a hundred calls from home. You are expected to earn your own money now but when you do and have even a little pride in it, they tell you to ‘get off your high horse, the neighbouring boy earns twice as much’.

So it’s difficult to be on one side of the border even without your incessant nagging.

I may not know the exact details of what my future is going to look like but I don’t even want to.

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I know that you had your own house when you were my age but consider limited housing and cost of a living space in this era for a second. I know you were married when you were my age, but I can barely select the pizza I want for dinner, let alone selecting a life partner. I know you had a child when you were as old as me but I’ve broken my phone thrice even though I absolutely love it and take care of it. I know it all but I’m fine with it.

I may not know the exact details of what my future is going to look like but I don’t even want to. I know you had it all planned but I like to ‘go with the flow’. I know I will make mistakes but how else will I have stories to bother my grandchildren with?

So call me irresponsible, immature and disoriented as you wish but I will make my mistakes, learn from them and figure life out in my own little way. I don’t know what my life will turn out to be but I’m okay with it and someday, you will too!

 

Having breakfast at noon,

Someone who will figure it out!



Author: Zainab Haji

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