That’s amazing! I wouldn’t approve of a judgemental husband anyway.

I don’t understand what is it with neighbours and distant relatives who constantly chant the question, “When are you getting married, dear?”

That’s none of your business, dear.

Honestly, it’s reasonable for parents to be worried about these things. But who needs constant pressure from people for whom you are nothing more than ‘evening tea gossip’?

If someone wants to get hitched, they eventually will; with whomever they want, whenever they want. And if you feel that their choices would probably cause problems in the future, you either keep it to yourself or at least try reasoning out the situation in a civil manner. Come on, we’re in the 21 st century after all!

If the overall pressure and judgements weren’t enough, in a country like mine, we have the topping of ‘societal standards’ to ruin the cake called marriage.

Personally, I think tattoos show character. I wouldn’t want my husband to be ‘tattoo-less’ and ‘characterless’ too!

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“Oh, you have multiple piercings? That’s not a sign of a well-cultured woman.”

“Why do you stay out till late and travel alone at night? This would have to stop after you’re engaged.”

“If you get a tattoo, you will become ineligible for marriage!”

Which marital law mentions the last one? I’m still trying to figure that out. Does it mean that I won’t ever find an ‘eligible’ bachelor who is inked?! What a shame. Personally, I think tattoos show character. I wouldn’t want my husband to be ‘tattoo-less’ and ‘characterless’ too! (See what I did there? *winks*)

Now, I know all about beliefs which say that our body is a temple of the Creator and we should love and respect it instead of trying to change its original appearance. But what about those who are non- believers? And the ones who have their own limitations when it comes to Faith? Do you mean to say that they will all die bachelors and spinsters? No human being has the right to dictate the other’s life choices under the pretext of Faith or unreasonable judgments.

For me, beautiful patterns of importance cannot keep love and the joy of marriage away from my life.

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So, let’s follow what we each believe in, without poking our noses in matters which are solely personal? For me, beautiful patterns of importance cannot keep love and the joy of marriage away from my life. We need to break free of these stereotypical criteria once and for all.

Marking my skin with ink is a personal choice and not something I should be judged for.

Tattoos are not a sign of bad morals or questionable character.

They could be a depiction of my struggles, passions or reminders which put me apart from a crowd.

And they definitely don’t say that I’m a part of some mafia group (mostly).

Although, I would judge you if you still have the name of your ex tattooed on your body! The sight just brings tears to my eyes. But like all things good, tattoos too have their cons! So, think wisely before your first one, ladies and gentlemen. And don’t think that nobody would want to marry you after that! We could all form our own ‘Tattoo Matrimony Club’ as a form of rebellion against societal norms. Deal?

Love,
The girl with a tattoo sleeve.

 

 



Author: Alisha Jamshed Syed

 

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