Being cool is overrated; being yourself is not.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but you absolutely hate ‘Game of Thrones’ from the bottom of your heart. The only reason why you somehow actually managed to watch seven entire seasons of that ridiculous and violent show was because all your friends watched it. Every episode was always followed by a discussion in the college canteen that lasted for hours. You didn’t want to be left out. You did not want to be the carrier of an unpopular opinion, especially one about a TV show as popular as ‘Game of Thrones’. So you hesitantly agreed to pass yourself off as a fan of a show you hate.

Whenever you go out with your friends, you make sure that you always order beer. Beer is what all the cool people drink. It doesn’t matter if it tastes horrible. It doesn’t matter if it makes you want to puke. You order a pint anyway and drink it while trying not to vomit. God forbid if you decide to do what you want and maybe order a delicious fruity cocktail. That won’t do because then your peers will mock you for ordering a ‘girly’ drink.

Maybe not this, literally, but do you face similar situations where you lie to everyone and to yourself just because you want to be liked.

Fitting in is great but it should not come at the expense of losing your originality.

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Have you ever thought about what makes you you? What part of your personality makes you into the person your friends, family and you yourself recognise?

I have always believed that you are built from all the thousands of choices you make every single day of your life. You are everything that you like, that you love and that you hate. You are your preferences which decide what you eat, what you watch, how do you behave and more.

Now, if you let someone else make these choices for you, you are not being your true self. If you form your opinions based only on the opinions of your friends, then you are not really thinking. Your opinions then don’t belong to you. Your personality does not belong to you.

I get it. You want to fit in and you want to make friends. I totally understand. Who likes sitting in the college canteen alone? It’s such a wonderful feeling when you enter the classroom and your best friend has saved you a seat. Fitting in is great but it should not come at the expense of losing your originality.

Don’t you ever dare to be ashamed of who you are and pretend to be someone else entirely!

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You are a unique combination of all your choices and your actions. Yes, you are not perfect but let’s be honest here- perfection doesn’t exist. What exists is originality and honestly. You might not be flawless but there can ever only be one of you. You can be an original work of art, only if you let yourself be.

Maybe you hate ‘Game of Thrones’ but instead you might have a taste for indie music. That’s definitely cool and that’s all you. You don’t have to be anyone else to be liked. You deserve to be loved just the way you are and you will be if you stop being so embarrassed.

So, be yourself- unfiltered and undiluted. Flaunt your love for makeup or sushi or whatever it is that you love. If you hate something that everyone else is in love with, like Ed Sheeran or Harry Potter (you muggle!). that’s totally fine. You have every right to dislike or like or whatever.

Don’t you ever dare to be ashamed of who you are and pretend to be someone else entirely!

Love,
Someone who’s been in your place.



Author: Maitreyee Mhatre

 

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