Beware! You’re slowly turning into the kind of people you always hated.

Don’t you absolutely detest when men stereotype us women into categories? The girly kind, the tomboy, the desperate chick, the feminist, the attention seeker, and the list goes on.

We hate it when we’re expected to surround ourselves with household chores, love children, be obsessed with pink and be a  hopeless romantic. It’s the same for men, ladies! Most of us still expect them to open doors for us, hold back their tears, spend hours at the gym and be addicted to sports. Kind of unfair, isn’t it?

Now, I know that you know that women generalize way more than men do. I also know that it’s natural, since we women are born critics! On one hand it’s the product of being oppressed for years and always treated as the inferior gender. On the other hand, it’s also because we find a connecting link with each other in the form of our wounds.

As a result, each girl knows at least a dozen other girls who have experienced some form of abuse or betrayal or disrespect at the hands of the male sex.

And that leads to further generalization and prejudice.

But sometimes, we do tend to turn things a bit dramatic.

One peek into my teenage years and I’ve got a complete list of judgemental females, ready at my disposal.

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I don’t even have to create imaginary examples for this one! One peak into my teenage years and I’ve got a complete list of judgemental females, ready at my disposal.

We’ve all had that one friend who is extremely suspicious of her boyfriend, who wouldn’t even hurt a fly, let alone cheat on her! But why does she feel the way she does? Because a friend of her brother’s best friend cheated on her girlfriend of four years (*gasps dramatically*).

And let’s not forget that neighbour who keeps warning you to stay away from a certain boy just because he ‘looks shady’. I mean, come on! The poor guy might not even know that you exist. Same as that unfortunate fellow you cursed on the bus and accused of molestation, when it was just his innocent bag pack which was brushing against you in the packed space.

I could go on and on, taking situations from real life and decoding them till our hearts are filled with guilt but I won’t. My last message would be to those teens who are exhausted from not receiving a text back! In the name of everything that’s good and holy, please hold the imaginary horses of your brain, girls! Just because he’s a late texter, doesn’t mean that he’s sleeping with ‘what’s her name’. Let’s be a bit gentle here.

How would you feel, if each moment of your life was spent proving that you aren’t a rapist and chauvinist?

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Due to such misinterpreted scenarios, the gap between the two sexes has seemed to increase further. Most men are tired of having to explain themselves for every action of theirs. How would you feel, if each moment of your life was spent proving that you aren’t a rapist and chauvinist?

Lastly, I’m in no way critiquing the unfortunately heightened female sense of self preservation. After all, I’m one of you too, right? All I’m trying to say is, let’s put a stop to this over-the- top bias, which may put us right next to the misogynists we’ve been fighting all along.

While we hope and pray that the roots of these generalisations dissolve with time, let’s take a few steps towards equality and show them how brave and big our hearts really are.

Love,
One of the Girl Squad.



Author: Alisha Jamshed Syed

 

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