Consider this letter as a guideline, if you want to!

I don’t know who you are or where you’re from because we haven’t even met yet. But if you’re going to be dating me anytime in the future, you’re definitely an amazing person because my self-worth is high enough for me to be super choosy. I have an entire checklist of qualities that I want in my partners and I settle for nothing less than those. Yes, I sound kind of crazy but it is my firm belief that I deserve to be treated well.

So, now we’re here; we’re a thing. You have me as your girlfriend. Congratulations, I am not a very easy person to love and I am sure you have a fair idea of that by now. But I am still going to warn you. I get extremely moody, I am very opinionated and I assure you that I will argue with you about everything from whether pineapple goes on pizza (it does!) to was Snape a bad person or not (he was!). We will also be arguing about feminism, politics and more. Get ready for a rough but thrilling ride!

These discussions will be our way of saying ‘I love you’ to each other.


So, we will have arguments and we will have fights based on those arguments. And that’s totally fine. It’s something I even look forward to. But we both have to promise each other that we will respect each other’s opinions as well as each other’s right to have an opinion. Don’t force me to concede. I will like you a little less every time you try.

Here’s a small secret about me. I love discussions with opinionated people. I have a huge thing for guys who are well-read and who can make valid points. What I mean is that, don’t even think of conceding to make me happy or something. That won’t work at all. These discussions will be our way of saying ‘I love you’ to each other.

If you love me, I want you to tell me when I go wrong. I want you to help me improve and grow as a person. I really don’t want you to tell me how perfect I am. I won’t believe you, no matter how much I want to. At the same time, I am a human being with feelings so I would really appreciate it if you are kind whenever you choose to point out my flaws. Constructive criticism works better than mere criticism.

I promise you that I will make sure that you feel loved.

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Call me old school (for making a reference to this ancient song) but ‘if you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends’! Jokes apart, this is really important. My friends have been around a lot longer than you have (I am texting them as I write this letter, way into the past) and I am not going to give up on any of them for you. Sisters before misters, after all!

I understand if you can’t become friends with all of them. That entirely depends upon you and them. But you can at least make an effort, right? It’s a win-win situation because if you have my girl gang on your side, you will have access to inside information on how to deal with my mood swings and tantrums (the answer to that is and forever will be food).

If we are a couple, I want you to know that my feelings for you are genuine. Please don’t ever believe otherwise. I promise you that I will make sure that you feel loved. Will you do the same for me? That’s all I want at the end of the day. I want to feel loved and wanted.

If you can do all of this, then now would be a good time to turn up at my doorstep. I’m waiting…

Your Demanding Future Girlfriend!

Author: Maitreyee Mhatre

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